Think sex dreams are meaningless? Thinkg again, my friend. Image: iStock.
If you've ever had a restful night of sleep interrupted by a dream about sex, you know how it can seriously throw off your mojo. Whether or not it was graphic, dreaming about doing the deed can leave you with lingering questions. Did that dream about sex mean anything?
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CAN you remember what you dreamt about last night? The after-effects of my own dream took a little longer to dispel: I woke up convinced that my husband had cheated on me after watching him disappear into a bedroom with another woman, powerless to intervene. My husband takes the opposite view: my dreams are, he says, just a mental dustbin where we deposit our thoughts. He's interpreted more than a quarter of a million dreams throughout his career and believes that however wacky and senseless - or sometimes downright scary - they may seem, our dreams are a highly evolved, crucial process which helps us make sense of our waking life.
We can't control what happens in our dreams and, as many of us know, things can get pretty weird up in our brains while we're asleep. Fran WalfishBeverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist, tells Bustle. You should ask yourself what meaningful person or 'thing' do you long for currently in your life that you are missing.
I mean, how could a nightmare about getting chased around by some doofus with knives for hands compare to the true horror of dreaming that you and your best friend are covered in lube and riding a sex swing together? And sex dreams can do more than just make our next IRL meeting with our dreamland partner uncomfortable. They can drive us nuts, as we struggle to figure out why we had a sex dream in the first place.
Instead, they could symbolize problems, desires, and hopes in all facets of your life. Paying attention to your sex dreams over time can be a powerful way to get what you want out of your life, says Lauri Loewenbergdream expert and author of Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams, Change Your Life. Nope, this doesn't mean you have any desire to cheat on your significant other with the man who lives next door or the person who makes your morning coffee—it just means that you may admire that person and wish you possessed some of their qualities, or whatever qualities they seem to express in your dream, says Loewenberg.
When we were kids, we had no idea what to do when we had a wet dream. Confession time: I have had two wildly vivid sex dreams about Macklemore over the last year or two. They were so real, I swear I know what the guy smells like. I have this dream pretty regularly, actually, about once every few months.
If Freud is to be believed, every slip of the tongue or night terror is indicative of some sort of psychopathic tendency. Having a sex dream about your boss, for example, is a surefire way to never be able to look them in the eye ever again. However, if you can put into perspective how much it actually reflects your desires, you should be able to get through it.
Like any other dream, sex dreams do have a meaning behind them and they can be influenced by many things, including what you do during the day and your thoughts. This person in your dreams is usually an image of what you look for in your ideal partner. You have a desire to be with your dream lover. You want to try something new in the bedroom.